"Don't tell your girls not to go out; tell your sons to behave!"

"An initiative to fight against the heinous crimes committes against women in India. We feel that laws need to be strenghtened so that it proves to be a deterrent for future crimes against women" - Facebook page description

"An initiative to fight against the heinous crimes committes against women in India. We feel that laws need to be strenghtened so that it proves to be a deterrent for future crimes against women" - Facebook page description

"Don't tell your daughters not to go out; tell your sons to behave" is something I've been reading a lot recently, and I love it. 

Though the initiative comes from (and for) India, I feel that it's something that must be spread worldwide.

Myself, I've been brought up with that mentality that women must be protected from men at all cost: explain to little girls how to defend themselves, explain to them how to be strong and what sexual harassment and rape are, and how not to be a victim by staying at home past 6pm and not being noticed when you go out, in the daytime.

I've always been somehow rebelious and curious, thenrefore I did find myself in some messy situations, once in a while, but nothing worth writing about. Call it luck.

However, as I grew up and grew a pair (yes, women can), I understood something: if I ever have children, I will not teach my daughter(s) to be scared and a victim. I will not tell her that men are dangerous. Instead, I'll make sure that I raise my son(s) to understand women are people, just like them, who deserve respect and who are just as good as them in anything, and I'll tell my hypothetical girl(s) to go out, do sports and whatever makes them happy.

But I won't do that in the end, we all know this. I won't be able to tell them to be careless and do what they want and not be scared to be raped, harrassed, intimidated, objectified. I wish I could, but it's impossible, because the rest of the society doesn't think like I do. And it's a pity.

We live in this world that we call modern and evolved, but when we ask why a man cheat on a woman, we still receive answers such as "men are like animals; they need to do it and have many partners" or "they can't hold back".

First, we need to stop saying it's normal for males to be unable to control their sexuality: it's the equivalent to give them a hi5 for what they're doing and encouraging them.

Basically, we tell men that it's fine if they have no control over their genitals, and we then turn around and shame our girls because they attract the control-less men with their sex appeal that we ask them to have in order to be attractive for these same men...

Not only is this confusing, it makes no sense at all.

It's about time we tell girls to do what they want and the same thing to boys, and that they need to respect everybody, regardless of their gender or clothes. We need to stop slut-shaming women and sexually-praising men.

People, regardless of their genders, are still people.