Harnaam Kaur, and her beard of flowers

If there was one story this week that warmed my heart, it was story about Harnaam Kaur on Rock n' Roll Bride.

Harnaam has polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) which caused her to start growing facial hair at the age of 11. After spending years (and thousands of £s) trying to achieve smooth hair-free skin, Harnaam has embraced her unique feminine look.

Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is due to a hormone imbalance in women, causing: irregular or no menstrual periods, heavy periods, excess body and facial hair, acne, trouble getting pregnant, and patches of thick, darker skin.

Harnaam used to wax her face several times a week, occasionally she'd resort to shaving. Having body confidence as a young woman is hard for most; when I read this I couldn't even begin to imagine the level of strength required to deal with having a beard during my formative years.

Unfortunately, as expected, kids were cruel. Harnaam, whilst happy in her family life, regularly experienced bullying at school. At some point she began to self-harm and became suicidal. 

In the article Harnaam describes the moment she decided to embrace her facial hair:

At the age of 16 I hit my biggest low. I had been suicidal all year due to immense bullying from school and people in society. I hid away and did not want to venture out into the public. My bedroom was my only safe haven. I was hugely depressed. I remember sitting on my bed and thinking about taking my own life. But instead, as I sat there, I started to counsel myself. I told myself ‘The energy you are putting into ending your life, put all that energy into turning your life around and doing something better. At that point I decided I wanted to be me. I decided to keep my beard and step forward against society’s expectations of what a woman should look like. Today I am not suicidal and I do not self harm. Today I am happy living as a young beautiful bearded woman. I have realised that this body is mine, I own it, I do not have any other body to live in so I may as well love it unconditionally.”

Harnaam is definitely a role model to us all: embrace your body no matter what you have - big boobs, no boobs, big feet, thinning hair, amputations, stretch-marks, too tall, too short, too skinny, too fat, crooked teeth, hairy face, hairy body, etc.  Not everything has to be symmetrical and fit in with society's predefined idea of beauty. It sounds like a cliché, and I'm sure you've heard it a thousand times before... but beauty really DOES come from within. Harnaam is such a beautiful person, and this radiates through her skin. Read what she said on her Instagram, this level of body confidence is something we can all admire. You go Harnaam, just reading your beautiful words has put a smile on my face today.

I am pretty 😆😉😍

Of course I am, and I tell myself everyday. Why? Well because I am and I can 😆 We get labelled with the most horrid names known to man every single day. So why can't we label ourselves with the most amazing and perfect labels. Of course we should. 

When we hear the same negative words said about us continuously by different people we tend to start believing in them. 

So why can't we say lovely positive words about ourselves. I tend to sometimes stand infront of my mirror, look deep into my eyes and say great things to myself. I imbed good words into my heart and and let them stick.

We should learn to love ourselves unconditionally first 100% that way when society labels you with horrid words, it won't matter to you as you know those words aren't true. 

Imbed positive words into your heart and soul...Negativity won't touch you.

Stay blessed 😆😉😚😘😙💙💚