On the train to work I overheard three teen girls talking, all looking at a group photo: “look at my arse, I look so fat! Look how white my legs are!”
What these girls didn’t seem to notice was, there was nothing wrong with how they looked at all. The only thing wrong was how they saw themselves. The worst part, they then proceeded to talk negatively about other girls they know.
How can we expect to see beauty in others when we can’t even see it in ourselves? And it works the other way too; how can we expect to see beauty in ourselves when we can’t see it in others?
An article in The Victorian Better Health Channel says:
Approximately nine out of 10 young Australian women have dieted at least once in their lives.
Even I can put my hand up for that one. The Channel also explains “some studies indicate that a young woman’s body image is the single largest influence on her self-esteem” and this can be due to many different reasons; what are some ways that we can think better of ourselves?
Think better: turn those negative thoughts upside down and make them positive. Last year I dropped two dress sizes, which felt awesome I’m not going to lie, but it happened because I was in a highly stressful relationship and when I am stressed I lose my appetite. An entire year of that and it’s no wonder I lost so much weight! Since being out of that relationship and no longer being constantly stressed, I’ve made up for a year of not eating in just 6 months… but, I am not fat. Yes, I may now have extra fat on me (perhaps in places I don’t particularly want), but I’m not dieting, I’m trying to become fit and healthy.
For the last couple months I have been trying to eat better and exercise regularly. I hate the gym and suck at cardio workouts, so head to the local swimming pool and try to go at least 3 days a week. I have a love/hate relationship with sugar (I love it but it hates me) so I have been attempting to eat less cake.
I chose to do these things because I wanted to become a better, stronger, healthier me, but also to simply FEEL and THINK better about myself as a woman. Through trial and error I learn more about my body, to understand it and what works for it.
Find what works for you and own it. Don’t let yourself become discouraged every time you look in the mirror, turn those thoughts right side up because it all starts with YOU. Once you feel good in yourself, then you will see the good in others. It’s all about sharing the love.